Recently, I’ve been faced with a sneaky little curveball that life decided to throw my way. Now, I’ve never been particularly good at sports. Also, I don’t understand how I ever was expected to run, look at a ball, wear my glasses, not throw up, stop myself from crying and go through the intense rollercoaster of puberty at the same time – so sporting was hard, to say the least. Anyway, that being said – le curveball came, and it hit me straight in the gut.
Le curveball came in the shape of someone smashing my car window and stealing my handbag with a bunch of things that are just generally needed in order to be a functioning adult. (Also pls. I am aware that leaving said handbag in car was not the smartest thing in the world, but if it helps – I learnt my lesson so meh). In summary, it wasn’t nice, it was raining and I felt pretty fucking scared (as opposed to my general cool self?)
Anyway, long story short: here are some unimportant things I’ve learnt:
What doesn’t matter:
- The entire world is on a tea break on Jan 1st
- Reciting childhood memories to the bank is not enough proof without your passport, ID or drivers licence.
- If anything bad happens on NYE, people’s first question will definitely include asking you how much you had to drink
- Home affairs is closed on Saturdays which is an actual ball-ache.
- Sending messages to your stolen phone saying ‘baby pls come back’ or ‘where the fuck are you’ does not help.
- Forcing yourself not to cry is dumb and will result in you getting weird anxiety-related nausea.
- Policemen won’t laugh if you say ‘’Guess I’ve started 2018 on expert level – I’m moving up. lol” and aren’t keen on small talk even if you explain to them that you use humour as a crutch in stressful situations. Okay.
So, after giving myself a day of throwing a lil pity-party, I put on my most gangsta tunes and reminded myself of the more important things that I’m still busy learning:
- Spending time with people you love.
NYE was one of the best nights. I was lucky enough to experience the ocean, bonfires, the beach, fireworks and my favourite people. There is so much love surrounding me and that’s what should make you happy – nothing more, nothing less.
- I am incredibly privileged.
Things are just things. It’s the value we put to it that messes with our brains. Everything that was stolen – is replaceable. What isn’t is the people around you. No one got hurt, everyone is healthy and breathing and around – that makes me the luckiest gal in the world.
- Be in the moment
For some reason, what really got to me was the loss of all my photos, videos and general sentimental things. Including the actual handbag that was passed on to me by my great gran. This being said; losing these things won’t make passed experiences less valid. Although it’s nice to have – you don’t need to cling on to it. Focus on what is happening at the moment. Try your best to record it in your mind. I know it’s easier said than done, but I promise that having faith that things will work out and truly trying to be present feels like the biggest weight off my shoulders.
- People are so friggen lovely
In a futile attempt to continue with the nifty sports metaphor – let’s just say my team took a hit. And by ‘team’ I mean me. Because let’s face it – as soon as something shitty happens, you convince yourself that you’re in it all by yourself because no one else is affected by it – wrong. The people around you care and love you, even strangers, feel losses with you. We’re all on the same team and we help each other. I am in awe of how many people dropped everything they were doing just to help out where they could. That they’re still helping. It makes my heart so happy to know that there are kind, generous, helpful and loving people in my life and that I can be the same to others.
- It’s all good, baby, baby.
There are so many more important things in life than a temporary shitty situation. 2018 is all about focusing on the positive. There are really good things coming (I can feel it in my bones) and there are so many things to be grateful for. There are also so many people who are going through a much shittier time than I am. Usually, I hate saying this, because everything is relevant to your surroundings and extremely subjective. I’m not going to play hierarchy with the shitstorms of the world, but I am trying to remind myself of how much there is to be thankful for.
Anyway, that’s all lil nuggets.